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I Sent Her ₦8K, and She Stopped Replying. I Had Already Developed Feelings for Her – Man Calls Out Woman
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In a complaint shared on Facebook, Joseph explained that he met Mojisola after she sent him a friend request. According to him, their conversations gradually became more serious, with both of them discussing their relationship status and the possibility of building a relationship that could eventually lead to marriage.
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According to Joseph, Mojisola later requested financial assistance for transportation from Ijebu-Ode to Lagos. He said he sent her ₦8,000 because he believed she intended to make the trip.
He further claimed that Mojisola informed him that she was at a motor park and preparing to travel. Joseph said he asked her to update him once she boarded a vehicle, but he received no further communication.
He explained that he tried calling and messaging her several times without success. He also claimed that he later discovered he could no longer access her Facebook profile normally and suspected that she had blocked or restricted him.
Joseph said he attempted to contact her using another person’s phone number, but she still did not answer. The situation, he explained, left him questioning what had happened after he sent the transportation money.
However, Joseph acknowledged that he could not independently establish why Mojisola stopped responding and called on the administrators of the dating group where they connected to investigate the matter fairly.
In his complaint, he requested that the administrators contact Mojisola, allow both parties to present evidence and take appropriate action if any wrongdoing was established.
Joseph also clarified that his complaint was not solely about the ₦8,000 but about the lack of communication after their travel arrangements had been discussed.
He appealed to the group administrators to handle the matter professionally and give Mojisola an opportunity to explain her side of the story.
He wrote: “Dear Esteemed Administrators,
I am writing to formally bring to your attention an incident involving a lady known to me as Okusanya mojisola, whom I met through your dating platform. I consider this matter serious because it concerns trust, honesty, accountability, and the integrity of a group established to help people find genuine relationships and potential life partners.
1. HOW WE MET AND HOW THE CONVERSATION DEVELOPED
I met Okusanya mojisola after she sent me a friend request on Facebook, which I accepted. Following our initial interaction, we began communicating and discussing matters relating to relationships and our personal lives. During our conversation, I asked her about her relationship status, and she informed me that she was single and searching.
Based on our discussions, I developed a genuine interest in her and decided to introduce myself properly. I explained what I do for a living and made my intentions known to her. I told her that I was interested in pursuing a serious relationship that could potentially lead to marriage, rather than engaging in a casual relationship without a clear direction.
I also explained that I am originally from Ijebu-igbo but currently based in Lagos. Since she told me that she lives in Ijebu-Ode, I suggested that she visit me in Lagos so that I could introduce her to my family. My intention was to demonstrate the seriousness of my intentions and give her the opportunity to meet my parents.
I further explained that, after she had met my family, I would also make arrangements to visit Ijebu-Ode to meet her mother, as she had informed me that her father was late. I believed that these steps would help us understand each other better and determine whether we could build a meaningful relationship with marriage as our ultimate goal.
2. THE ₦8,000 TRANSPORTATION FARE
During our conversation, she request for transport support which I asked Okusanya mojisola how much transportation from Ijebu-Ode to Lagos would cost. She provided the amount, and I subsequently sent her ₦8,000 as transportation assistance to facilitate her proposed visit to Lagos.
I sent the money in good faith because I believed she was sincere about meeting me and that we were taking a genuine step towards establishing a serious relationship.
After making the transfer, I sent her a screenshot of the debit alert as confirmation that the money had been sent successfully.
At no point did I consider the money an investment or payment for any personal benefit. I sent it because I trusted the person I was communicating with and believed that she intended to honour the arrangement we had discussed.
3. HER CLAIM THAT SHE WAS ON HER WAY TO LAGOS
On the day in question, Okusanya mojisola informed me that she was at the park and was preparing to travel from Ijebu-Ode to Lagos. I was pleased to receive this information because I believed that the planned meeting was finally going to take place.
I asked her to send me a screenshot or a brief update once she had boarded the vehicle. My intention was simply to confirm that she had commenced the journey and to have some reassurance about her travel arrangements.
However, after approximately 10:30 a.m., I waited for further communication from her. I expected her to provide an update as the journey progressed, particularly because I was anticipating her arrival and had planned to receive her in Lagos.
As time passed, I became increasingly concerned. I tried calling her several times, but she did not answer. I also sent messages through Facebook Messenger. Although my messages appeared to have been delivered, I received no response.
By approximately 3:00 p.m., I was seriously concerned because I had received no meaningful update about her journey or whereabouts. Considering the expected travel time between Ijebu-Ode and Lagos, I could not understand why there had been no communication.
I appreciate that unforeseen circumstances can occur during travel, and I would have understood if she had encountered a delay or changed her plans. All I expected was an explanation.
4. THE SUDDEN LOSS OF COMMUNICATION
What made the situation more troubling was that my attempts to contact Okusanya mojisola continued to be unsuccessful.
Subsequently, I discovered that I could no longer access her Facebook profile in the usual way. It also appeared that she had restricted or blocked my access to her account and Messenger. My messages no longer showed the usual indications of activity, and I could not establish whether she was willing to communicate with me.
I even attempted to reach her using another person’s telephone number. Although the calls appeared to go through, she did not answer them.
At this stage, I was left without an explanation as to why she had stopped communicating after receiving the transportation money and informing me that she was travelling to Lagos.
To be clear, I cannot independently confirm her intentions or establish why she stopped responding. Nevertheless, the sequence of events has caused me serious concern and has left me questioning whether the arrangement was genuine.
5. MY COMPLAINT AND CONCERNS ABOUT THE INTEGRITY OF THE GROUP
Esteemed administrators, I am bringing this matter to your attention not merely because of the ₦8,000 involved, but because of the trust that members place in a platform intended to facilitate genuine relationships.
When someone expresses an interest in a serious relationship, discusses marriage, agrees to meet a potential partner’s family, receives transportation assistance, and subsequently becomes unreachable without explanation, the situation raises legitimate concerns that deserve to be examined.
If this kind of conduct is allowed to continue without appropriate review, members may begin to lose confidence in the platform. People who genuinely seek companionship and marriage may become suspicious of others, making it more difficult for honest members to establish meaningful relationships.
I understand that not every failed meeting or unanswered message constitutes fraud. However, I believe the circumstances described above warrant an impartial investigation and an opportunity for Okusanya mojisola to explain what happened.
6. MY REQUEST TO THE ADMINISTRATORS
In light of the foregoing, I respectfully request that the administrators:
1. Review this complaint impartially and contact Okusanya mojisola through the appropriate channels to establish what happened.
2. Invite her to provide an explanation regarding the transportation money she received, her communication that she was travelling to Lagos, and the subsequent loss of contact.
3. Give both parties an opportunity to present evidence, including relevant screenshots of our conversations, the transportation transfer receipt, and any information that may clarify the circumstances.
4. Consider appropriate action under the group’s rules if the investigation establishes that she deliberately obtained money through deception or violated the group’s policies. This may include a warning, temporary suspension, or removal from the group, depending on the findings and the rules governing membership.
5. Encourage accountability and respectful conduct among members so that the group remains a safe and trustworthy environment for people seeking genuine relationships.
6. Where appropriate, encourage a resolution of the financial issue, including repayment of the ₦8,000 if the evidence and circumstances establish that repayment is warranted.
I side of the story. Rather, I am asking that the matter be taken seriously, investigated fairly, and resolved based on the available evidence.
MY FINAL APPEAL
Dear administrators, I am making this complaint in good faith because I believe that trust is essential to the success of any relationship platform.
I approached Okusanya mojisola with genuine intentions. I introduced myself, explained my circumstances, expressed my interest in a relationship that could lead to marriage, and offered to introduce her to my family. I sent the transportation money because I believed we were both willing to take the next step.
What has left me disappointed is not simply the amount of money involved, but the absence of an explanation after the arrangements had been made and the money had been received.
If there was a genuine reason she could not travel, I would have preferred an honest explanation. If she changed her mind about the relationship, she could also have communicated that decision. What I find difficult to understand is the apparent decision to cut off communication without clarifying what happened.
I therefore appeal to the administrators to give this matter the attention it deserves. Please contact Sonia, invite her to explain her actions, and take a fair decision based on the evidence presented by both parties.
My intention is not to create unnecessary conflict, embarrass anyone, or damage the reputation of the group. My objective is to seek clarification, encourage accountability, and help protect members who participate in the group with sincere intentions.
I trust that the administrators will handle this complaint professionally, confidentially, and in accordance with the group’s rules.
Thank you for your time, understanding, and anticipated cooperation.
Yours faithfully,
Akinbanjo Joseph”
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