He Accepted Me and My 7 Children After I Came Out of Two Abusive Marriages

Adah Doebele, a mother of seven, has shared her emotional story about finding true love and acceptance after a painful past.

In an interview with Afrimax, she recounted her first marriage, describing how her former husband treated her with disdain. 

“He told me I was ugly and claimed he did me a favor by marrying me,” Adah revealed.

Her challenging journey began at age 13. While working as a fish seller, tragedy struck when she was raped by the man who would later become her first husband. 

Narrating, she said: “At the age of 15, I was married off now thankfully, I began school at Internet 2 at the age of 15yrs, I was just completing my high school that is form 4.

“i was married off and my first experience in this relationship was rape and off course I was the third wife at that time I ended up having three children in this relationship.

“But then when i turned 22, I walked away, I walked away because it was so abusive, I was abused by both the man and his first wife so it became so intense and I made up my mind to leave so i left with my three children.”

She opened up about how, after leaving her first marriage, she met another man. Unfortunately, he was often drunk and abusive. She went on to explain that her second husband began mistreating her children as well. She shared the painful experience of how he would physically hurt her and tell her she was ugly.

She admitted that being called “ugly” wasn’t something new to her. Her first husband had often said the same thing, so by the time her second husband said it, she had already grown somewhat accustomed to it.

“My first marriage, the man maintained that I was so ugly saying that he was doing me a favor of being married to me so i believed this because it is something he told me day in and day out and 7years of being in the same thing you tend to believe not only that even in my childhood, That has been forwarded to me and it made me believe that I was ugly, I was unworthy, I was a problem.

“and so in this man, I began to do that I believed him and he was just emphasizing the fact it has not been revealed to me so when i got married to this second man and when i say marriage, It is not a real marriage like in african context that maybe you are paid dowry for that you got for a wedding it was this thing of come we stay.

“So he picked up from where the last one had left both in abuse when i talk about abuse I am talking in the intense of beating, intense insults both emotionally and physcially”

She shared that because of the abuse, she eventually left her second husband’s house and moved to a new place with her children, who are now in their late teens and early twenties.

Adah went on to explain that her children saw firsthand the struggles she went through on her own, which deeply affected them. They couldn’t bear to watch their mother suffer any longer and decided to help her find a new husband—one who would treat her with love and respect, unlike the way their father had treated her. 

They were also fearful of how they were being treated by their father, and out of love and concern for their mother, they made a promise to find her a good partner who would treat both her and them well.

“My children first suggest to me that they want to find me a husband and i believe the reason why they did that is because they were afraid because they had watched me battered by this man it used to get so bad and twice he put that house on fire intending to actually get us killed and soon they realized that i may end up dead.

How she met her new man, she said: “I Was online for about 3months before i met someone three months i met another person i left the other one and so when i found that person, he became very serious with me he wanted to come to kenya to visit me he wanted marriage but by then he was so concerned about my children 

“I had a problem with that because i didn’t intend to go back to a relationship where i would be blamed for having children because i love my children and i am happy and i am proud of them and i have no problem having 7 children.

“Even before i continue i must say my life has been a miracle because i have watched God worked in my life tremendously just amazingly and on the 21st of december 2011, I asked god every simply if there is someone out there that can love me as i am with my burden please make them find me that was until 21st of december 2011 and guess what? The lord made me, prompted me I was prompted to resubscribe because i have left the dating site because i met somebody so i thought and when i subscribed on the 24th I met my now late husband.”

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