If your man doesn’t pamper you, stress will make you look older than your age- Woman

A Nigerian woman, Joy Chinwenmeri, has sparked conversations online by stating that any man who doesn’t pamper his woman is a red flag.  

Sharing her personal experience, Joy revealed that since getting married, she has only washed her husband’s clothes twice. According to her, her husband avoids stressing her so she can focus on growing her business.  

She contrasted this with her past relationship, recalling how her ex-fiancé would leave her to wash piles of clothes and a duvet while he relaxed and watched TV. 

She wrote: “I have only washed my husband’s clothes once and that’s because I offered to .

He refused vehemently and said “No baby , your fingers would hurt . I will take it to the laundry” …I insisted cos it was just 3 items .

He packs my clothes and his own to the Laundry ,brings them back too

I Dey look at my heap of clothes and I am smiling knowing that he will sort them and take them to the laundry once he comes back from his trip

This evening I remembered that my ex fiancé in 2015 that would tell me to wash bunch of clothes and duvet while he sits down to watch Tv…. Wetin for kee me for that marriage na stress .

I was a fresh graduate who just finished serving and suitors were coming from left right and center

I chose the Oga cos I felt he ticked my boxes . Visiting him against my dad’s wish turned our to be my biggest blessing

I saw first hand who I was going to live with and decided it was a bad idea …

He believed in gender roles and would always say his mother had 8 children and did all the work that why should I complain ?

I am glad I ran as young as I was then

I knew that a man who didn’t consider that a woman should be pampered is a NO

I have done too much domestic work growing up as an ADA and I didn’t want to anymore

Stress makes one look really old ….

I also remember when my husband went in search of a cleaner to clean our house weekly so that I can concentrate on my business

I thought about it and decided it was not a good idea cos we were newly married then . I thanked him for being so thoughtful and sweet

Marriage is team work and if your husband does not like doing his laundry himself or taking it to the laundry people to wash , it will be hard ooo

Imagine washing your own , his own

The children’s own

You also cook ,clean and still do business or go to work , come back tired , cook , clean again and still open leg at night

Haaaaaa , odikwa too stressful

NB ….Please note that this post is not the standard . I am only sharing my own personal experience.

Do what works for you as far as you are happy . but remember to rest ooooo

Women need rest . We don’t do well with too much stress .. it disturbs our hormones.”