We get stares in public till the extent people question my mom on why I would marry a man 7yrs older than me

Lungile Hongana recently opened up about the judgment she faced for dating an older man who is seven years her senior. 

She shared that when her now-husband first showed interest in her, she was already in a relationship and didn’t pay him much attention. It wasn’t until later, while she was still in school, that she decided to give him a chance.

Lungile also recounted the criticism and rumors she and her mother faced during the early days of her relationship. Some people went as far as accusing her husband of being a married man while they were still dating.During her narration with Breifly Tv life on how she met her husband, Lonwabo who was married, she said: “I met Lonwabo the first time i was going for Job Interview from the minutes he saw he he knew that he is going to marry me but i don’t believed that, he made the move i didn’t give him the time of day because at that time i was still in a relationship but then after a while i was like okay this guy is not bad and i started answering his DMs and actually investing in the conversation and then in 2020 it then became official.

Her first impression about him??, she said: “I didn’t really like him he was kind of mean but i realized that he had to be stern cause he is a boss and then when i got to talk to him, he was like he’s so sweet, shockingly sweet he is a bear and a literal teddy bear.

What she likes about him, she said: “He is actually a giving person and i think it sterns from him being muslim i don’t want to say it is wrong but you are 10times blessed the more you give it is amazing to just see him like randomly someone is asking for something and he will be like let’s go in the store and he’ll like just vibrate milk the one where I’m like wow you are a gem he is a stern provider he beliefs that it is my responsibility to make sure that everything in my home is good and my wife is happy.

What she treasures more about her relationship with her husband, she added saying: “what i treasure about our relationship is our honesty and communication this is the first man that I have been able to be my entire self with and be honest and even have uncomfortable conversation but know that however uncomfortable it is it’s supposed be heard and there is no i’m going to hold it against you in the future or i’m going to judge you or anything like that.
Their age gap??, she said: “Our age gap is 7yrs but i think 7yrs is ok as long as you two consenting adults.

Does the age gap have any effect on their relationship??, she said: “I think when we were starting we had concerns cause i was still in school and he has really established his life so is it safe to go down that root, i’m going to school Im not stable, I don’t have money i still live with my parents and some weekends was like i cant come when i was supposed to come because of my mom and on my side i had insecurities of why me im just a kid in school trying to figure out my life and once i graduate im still here to figure out my life also i believe i need money not just on the guy side but also on the girl’s side my love language is gifting i love to spoil my partner.

“During our relationship honestly i had nothing to contribute, he was okay he was like i would figure it out for the both of us luckily we weren’t living together everything i go to him he would be taking us out he would be paying for everything dates and everything but when it started getting tougher was when we moved in together because i can’t expect him to buy like everything in this household take care of me i pushed so hard to get a job even if i hated what i was doing at that time even now he does almost everything but i still push to help with groceries and whatever else i can help with.

“And i think it is very important to work, have something for yourself and also very important to bring something to the table to help because it does weigh heavy on your partner.

How she feels with her partner in public when people stare, she added saying: “It doesn’t help that i have a baby face it doesn’t help that he kind of doesn’t look like his age so yes there is age gap but i look younger than 26…….we have had not just the stares we have had actual people be like this is odd it doesn’t help that he was driving the car that he was driving at the time that he picked me up in school and people be like hmm but in malls it was so evident because people stay and like okay at the end of the day you are strangers we don’t owe you anything some were like ah it is not going to last they even said he is gonna be done with me we moved along but in terms us that is the last thing that could have affected us together a lot of things were said about me and my mom’s parenting style like your mom just makes you do that boys come and fetch you men come and fetch you at home my mom actually did cut a lot of people in my hood even her allowing me to actually date this boy she has reached a point she realized that she was a good kid she trusted me and she saw int he way my husband was treating me she was like i’m gonna let this happen i’m gonna let my child date.”

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