My friends stopped talking to me because I underwent surgery to reduce my weight

A woman named Becca Jayne has opened up about her experience of being abandoned by her friends because of her new body size.

Becca who underwent a Gastric sleeve surgery said: “It was a catch-up with the girls and I was really looking forward to it.

“I’d bought a new black, bodycon catsuit from Primark, knee-high boots from Next and a cool jacket from Vinted.

“A few years ago I’d have covered up in a shapeless dress but I wanted to show off my figure after losing 5st 5lb through gastric sleeve surgery.

“I thought a few wines with the girls would be great fun.”

Becca Jayne revealed that she was deeply unhappy with her weight loss journey. After discussing it with her husband, James, they decided she should undergo surgery abroad due to the lower cost. 

She added that they ultimately decided on Turkey for the procedure, where the surgery was successfully performed.

She added: “So James and I decided I should have the surgery overseas, as it was cheaper. I was nervous because of all the horror stories about things going wrong, but I couldn’t walk upstairs without getting breathless.

“We researched carefully — and then, after telling only family, I flew to Turkey and had the operation.”

After undergoing the surgery, she stated that she was limiting the way she eats due to have the look she had desired to avoid becoming fat.

She added: “Slowly I learned to eat just the right amount of food each day, having a small cup of porridge for breakfast and a toddler-size bowl of chicken with vegetables for dinner.

“Within a month I’d lost a stone. I now weigh 8st 5lb, have more energy and am exercising daily. James loves my new look and I am more confident in the bedroom, so our sex life has improved too.”

Noting on how her friends were not happy about her surgery, she said: “I thought my friends would be happy for me too, but I immediately sensed a change.

“Olivia, who I bonded with while pregnant, and talked to about breastfeeding and sickly babies, stopped messaging me. Jan stopped inviting me to after-school park dates.

“And Tanya*, who I met at a sports day, began ignoring me.”

“I discovered from a supportive pal that some people had labelled me a ‘weight-loss cheat’ and ‘lazy’ for not joining a gym,”

“That really stung.”

After undergoing the surgery, she noted that she started dressing in a more figure clothes to avoid fear of men judging her.

“I previously wore ‘mumsy’ outfits, suddenly I was buying sexy clothes — not for men, but for me,” she says.

“One pal said she believed other women were worried I’d steal their husbands, even though James is the only man for me.

“Others apparently accused me of being full of myself and said I no longer fitted in. I felt shunned and it often left me in tears.”

How she feels about criticisms, she said: “I’m so proud of my weight loss that I’ve documented it on social media. Every single negative comment is from a woman. I’ve been told I am a bad influence and have taken the ‘easy way out’.

“I’ve felt gaslighted, humiliated and naive for not realising some women may have only wanted me around as I made them look slimmer.

“Skinny rejection is real and I am stunned.

“Luckily, my husband is proud of me and loves me no matter what size I am.”