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I had multiple Miscarriages and was Unable to bear a child, My best friend agreed to have my child
Kimberley Allen, who always dreamed of becoming a mother, shared how her best friend, Becky, agreed to carry a child for her and her husband, Jamie after years of struggling with infertility.
Kimberley and her husband had faced multiple miscarriages and challenges due to Kimberley’s polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), a condition that affects ovulation and can cause infertility.
In an interview with WhatsTheJam, the couple explained that they had almost given up hope of becoming parents until Becky, Kimberley’s best friend, offered to be their surrogate.
Becky suggested having a baby that would be biologically hers and Kimberley’s husband’s.
Kimberley recalled: “For a moment, I thought I’d misheard her – but I hadn’t “Jamie and I sat in stunned silence for a few minutes before I questioned her.
“Becky said she wanted to be a surrogate for us, which cleared up things. “I felt overwhelmed and full of love for her.
“My child being biologically hers just made our bond even closer. “I just remember feeling so happy that I had helped my husband impregnate my best friend – a sentence I never thought I’d say.
How she feels being a mother, she said: “Being a mum was my biggest dream in life “I turned to Becki for comfort and we remained the best of friends, even when she went on to have three children of her own.
“I was so pleased for her, and I wasn’t envious at all, and so I stopped wondering when – or if – it would happen for me.”
“I couldn’t believe it, I was completely speechless when Becki showed us the positive pregnancy test.
“All our friends and family were so supportive and each kick felt like a tiny miracle. “While all eyes were on Becki and her bump, I didn’t feel jealous in the slightest.”
She added: “I fell head over heels in love with my baby girl. I couldn’t believe that we were finally parents – it still feels surreal.
“There are no words to describe how thankful I am to Becki.
“I had always considered her my sister, but now there really is a piece of her DNA in my family. “Our daughter looks very much like me when I was young – no one would ever know or question it if I didn’t tell them.
“I thought my dream of being a mum had been taken away from me for good – but she made it finally come true.”
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I have always wanted to be Barbie all my life because she Inspired me a lot
Marcela has revealed that she has spent $100,000 transforming herself into a real-life Barbie.
She shared that her transformation involved Botox, fillers, injections, surgeries, tanning, and extensive hair and makeup.
Marcela explained that she has always admired Barbie, describing the doll as her idol and inspiration.
“All my life, I’ve tried to look like a doll. Barbie has always inspired me because of their motto: ‘You can be anything you want to be.’ When I came to America 25 years ago, I had a dream, and I made that dream happen because I truly believe you can be anything you want,” she said.
Marcela’s journey began in 2012 with Botox, and she estimates that she has spent $100,000 on various procedures since then. Her first major cosmetic surgery was a breast augmentation in 2022. Reflecting on her transformation, she said, “”My first procedure was in 2012 i have botox and roughly i have spent botox, fillers, injections, surgeries, tanning, hair and makeup around $100k my big first cosmetic surgery was my breast which i have done in 2022 and when i look at the best version of myself.”
She also shared a personal reason behind her Barbie obsession. “The reason that i wanted to emulate the barbie doll is because my mother never bought me a barbie doll she disliked the doll and i love the aesthetics of the doll so i wanted to look like her not because i wasn’t secure about i perceived the doll aesthetically.”
When addressing critics, Marcela admitted it was initially challenging to deal with negative comments. “People would say, ‘You look ugly,’ ‘You look awful,’ ‘You look old,’ ‘You don’t look like Barbie,’ or ‘You look like a plastic doll.’ Which was like oh that’s great I look like a plastic doll yeah that is not an insult and it took me like a while to process the bad comments that people are going to be mean no matter what so after i understood that it’s like who cares i mean i’m not going to pay attention anymore i just want to be happy and i don’t care what other people have to think.”
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I spent $80k on my husband while he was in Prison but got criticized Online
A woman named Arrogance shared her experience of spending $80,000 on her husband, Zyion, while he was in prison.
In an interview with Love Don’t Judge, she revealed that they’ve been married for five years and have faced criticism because of their relationship.
Arrogance explained that she doesn’t judge or abandon her husband due to his criminal past. Instead, she focused on her work and raising their kids.
Recalling how they met, she said, “I first saw him at a barbecue, not knowing he had just been released from prison. I thought, ‘Who is that chocolate drop? I need him, I’m going to get him.’”
They married on July 9, but shortly after, Zyion was incarcerated again for another charge on September 14, 2019, serving time for two cases.
Zyion shared his experience during the pandemic: “I actually got into prison a week before covid they shut the whole prison off no visits no nothing.” Arrogance interrupted saying” we had video visits for a year
Regarding the criticism she’s faced, Arrogance said, “I’m not one of those who are oh he did the crime so i am not going to do the same we going time together baby i didnt give him no hard time I just worked went to school and took care of my kids”
Zyion also mentioned the support he received from his wife, saying, “My wife spent $80,000 on me during my incarceration, and that’s why people are upset.”
How he feels about negative comments from people, He added, “I wont reply If you have the time to write a comment about what is going on here whether negative or positive you are invested in it that is why all hate is you expressing love in a negative way.
Arrogance concluded saying: “People needs to be woke on to what is going on in the real world and how a lot of women and black women and um alot of black men are going through this situation a lot of judgement but alot of love as well because there are a lot of millions of people going through the same thing as me.”
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We are trying to have our baby- Former Prison worker who Married Inmate Speaks
A former prison worker who fell in love with an inmate has shared her plans to have a baby with him, despite his being jailed for murder.
The woman, Larissa King from Canada, met her now-husband, Ryan King, in 2020 while working in the prison kitchen where he was assigned. After a year, she left her job and enrolled in university to train to become a probation officer.
Initially, Larissa wanted to reach out to the prisoners to discuss measures that could help them readjust into society upon release and that time she remembered Ryan who was also serving a 15yr jail term and during those time, they both began started writing letters to themselves before they started talking on the phone before things became romantic.
She said: “We wrote a couple of times and then I gave him my phone number because I thought it would be easier that way and then we started talking on the phone maybe once a week,’ she explained recently.
“It was very limited and then that turned to twice a week, three times a week, every day, multiple times a day.
“When we really started talking on the phone it was the end of 2021, I’d say around November and then by February I knew I loved this man.
“I actually spoke to a therapist to understand my feelings. Like why is this happening? Is this real?’ she recalled.
“I was very confused and my therapist was like it seems like it was just an unconventional meeting but it seems like your feelings are valid.
After a year of dating, Larissa went to the prison to meet Ryan in person for the first time. To her surprise, he proposed to her during the visit.
“I thought I was going to puke,’ she said of the moment he got down on one knee.
“We’re talking and we were sitting at this table with two chairs right by a window – a nice scenic background of barbed chain link fence and there was a playground there
“He asked me to get up so he could see my outfit. He made me do a twirl. When I came back around he was on his knee with a fake ring.
“Obviously there was nothing in his hand because he can’t bring anything into the visiting center.
Larissa also revealed that Ryan’s mother gave her money from his account to help her afford to buy a ring.
After tying the knot in March 2023, the couple revealed that they are now trying to have a baby.
Larissa also opened up about how nervous she felt when she and her husband were alone together, sharing that they had never been intimate before.
She said: “I was so nervous for the first time we were alone together.
“We had never been intimate at all. The most we’d had was light kisses in the visitors center.
“It was difficult to wait that long. But it was worth the wait. It was nice to have that important time together.
According to Larissa, she has a condition called AMH, which means her ovaries produce fewer eggs, making it difficult for her to get pregnant.
Talking on how people questioned their relationship including her family members, she said: “It’s a very weird concept that I don’t think a lot of people understand and I know even some of my family members questioned it,’ she revealed.
“I was always very forthcoming with them. My mom is coming around, she’s spoken to him a couple of times. My dad and my stepmom were supportive from the get-go.
“Some loved ones have stepped away from my life because [they] are uncomfortable with my husband’s charges and I’ve always said I would never force my relationship on any of them… it’s not for everybody and I understand that.
“Hopefully we can reconnect eventually. It was a little premature that they axed us because my husband is still incarcerated.”
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I’m not ashamed of my face, It does not make me look different from others
Leidy Ardila, a 29-year-old woman from Colombia, has shared her experience living with fibrous dysplasia, a rare bone disorder where fibrous tissue replaces normal bone.
In an interview with Truly, Leidy explained that her condition doesn’t make her feel any different from others, nor does it stop her from showing her face openly.
Leidy shared that her health issues began after heart surgery as a baby, with doctors warning her mother that she might never walk again.
By the time she was just three years old, signs of the bone disorder began to appear.
“I was born normal but had a heart murmur,” she explained. “I had to have surgery and the surgery was a complete success but they used alot of steroids and that started my disease, The steroids damaged my Pituitary glands and now i have more calcium in the upper part of my body than the lower part.”
She described her condition as a “silent disease,” explaining, “It keeps destroying you without you realizing it. It stops for a while, then suddenly starts growing again, causing new deformities.”
Her mother, Mateleth, recalled the difficulty they faced upon learning of Leidy’s rare disorder, saying, “A doctor told me my daughter had a disease that almost nobody else in the world has.” Her father, Alejandro, added, “We were told there is no cure for Leidy and they said our daughter will not live beyond the age of 12 and of course the impact was tremendous at such a time you shall feel very small so we kept on living with the constant shadow above us”
When she’s in public, Leidy often faces stares and reactions from others. “When other people are around it is obvious that people are looking at me especially when they see you their surprised stares or something like that because it is not normal it is always like “wow” I have had times when i felt really uncomfortable because of people’s looks the acceptance process was long.”
Leidy has since embraced herself, saying, “I have accepted myself as i am but i think I will always have some hangups.”
Reflecting on sharing her journey on social media, Leidy said, “I was afraid of being criticised i was worried about what people would say because it is hard for anyone to put themselves out there and especially hard as i am i have gained a-lot of followers and i have also experienced the meaner side of it i have had some really harsh comments”
Leidy uses her platform to inspire others with similar struggles, encouraging people to look beyond appearances. “I do it with the intention to inspire people that have alot of complexes It was to show that our condition dont matter, it doesnt matter how we look like we have to keep going in life.
“Having a facial deformity doesn’t make me much different for other people I have proved to myself that i can do it I think beauty is more than what is on the outside, when i look at the mirror i see a fighter, a warrior and someone facing forward, someone that has dreams.”
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My family scattered my marriage with a white man after taking him to Nigeria for our Traditional marriage- Woman laments
A woman shared how her family disrupted her marriage plans with a white man after she brought him to Nigeria for their traditional wedding.
In an interview with content creator Italiandavido, she explained that she has lived in Italy for 34 years, facing various challenges, including arrests by Italian police.
During those difficult times, she met a supportive white man who was ready to marry her. However, when they went to Nigeria to perform the traditional marriage rites, her family betrayed her shattering their plans.
Narrating she said: “In 1993, i carry oyinbo with his mother to go to my home country (Nigeria) Benin city, Edo state with canopy, we did our court marriage and everything my family and everyone gathered that day at the end they come go back but person dey pray for this life make home no kill you but family do am but God said that is not the way he sent you to this life and God stand by me I suffered and i stayed.”
How her ex-husband mother started giving her attitude after their visit to nigeria, she said: “After my marriage, My oyinbo and him mama go who wan carry oyinbo to italy with him mama go nigeria go do marriage and that time was in 1993 was a the G12 of abiola It was a tough of war in edo state we were rushing to do that marriage because of the war that was coming due to abiola issue and that was how we did the marriage at the end, i was dumped in nigeria, i cried and then i remebered that the day i came down from airport, something shaked my body and i was wondering how i will go back to italy and at the end, i sold all my properties and it is my family people who destroyed my marriage the day i wanted to go to claim my luggage that came with cargo I left my white husband in the house as i went with his mother to where we should go pick up the luggage and then when i was dumped, i sold all my properties to make sure i get back to italy and then i spent 1 year and 4months in Nigeria.”
When asked on why her husband did not come back to carry her, she said: “You know spiritual something someone that you dont even expect that will even blow one day and God just bring it out and they said no why but today they are regretting it.”
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She is someone I’m connected to- Gay man officially announce engagement with Girlfriend
A white man named Jacob Hoff, a gay, has officially married a woman after years of identifying as gay. Jacob announced his marriage to his girlfriend, Samantha Greenstone, after being together for six years.
He also shared his plans to have children with Samantha, stating that despite his past as a gay man, he feels a deep spiritual connection with her.
“It’s very clear that Samantha is the person that I’m connected to spiritually. She is my soulmate, my partner, the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. And that often transcends just plain old sexuality, and we are attracted to each other – we’re intim*te, it is just on a different level, it’s a soulmate connection,” he said
Explaining more about his decision, he said: “I am gay. I don’t label myself as bi-sexual – my preference is men, but I have been in this closed, exclusive relationship with Samantha for six years and it has been a dream. We’re in love, and it’s that simple,”
How she feels being in a relationship with him, Samantha said: “Sometimes a soulmate is just a soulmate, and Jacob has been completely open and loving with me. And when he looks at me and talks to me, he makes me feel like I am the most treasured, loved human being on this Earth. We want to get married; we want to have a kid, and we have just chosen each other in this lifetime because we love each other’s souls,”
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My husband is 29yrs older than me, People think I got married to him because of his money
Alyssa, a 30-year-old woman married to a man 29 years her senior, recently opened up about how people view their relationship due to the age difference.
She revealed that she met her husband, Mark, when he was 59 and she was 23, after they connected on social media and began talking daily. A week later, they met in person.
While Alyssa’s small family accepted the relationship, Mark’s family had a harder time. She explained to Whatsthejam, “My family is very small and he wasn’t my first large age gap relationship so no one was phased,” she said to whatsthejam
“But his family was an entirely different story.
“They made all these assumptions about me and my intentions in our relationship.
“The same presumptions that are always made and will often be made based solely on our age difference.
“Over time they got to know me and I know once they spoke to me and spent time with me they realized I wasn’t some kind of gold digger or bimbo.
Mark, who has two adult children (25 and 27) from his previous marriage, married Alyssa, and they now have two kids together, Ziya (11) and Mel (17). Alyssa mentioned that Mark’s ex-wife and older children saw how deeply she cared for his youngest daughter, which helped them accept her.
She added: “His ex-wife and his older kids saw how deeply I cared for his youngest.
“Once you see someone love your little sister or daughter as their own I imagine it’s hard to paint them as some sort of vapid selfish monster.”
Regarding public criticism, Alyssa said, “Criticism and judgment from society has never bothered me because I found very early on that happy people don’t judge.
“The people who spew hate or shoot dirty looks are often being triggered by something that they lack or hate in themselves.
“For example; someone who is personally angered by seeing my husband and I out for dinner together is either unhappily single or in a relationship that they hate.
“Misery enjoys company and I’d be damned if I let them have mine.”
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I’m 64yr old but Many people think I’m in my 20s
Fern Logan, a 64-year-old woman, has proudly shared how she maintains her youthful appearance and catches the attention of younger men.
In an exclusive chat with Fabulous, Fern revealed that men in their twenties and thirties often beg her for dates, and many assume she is 30 years younger than her actual age.
She said: ‘I’m proud to be a super-hot OAP.
“I’m 64 and people think I’m 30 years younger. I do look better than I did in my forties.
“Men in their twenties and thirties beg me for dates.”
Proud of her figure, Fern refuses to cover up and loves showing off her physique.
“I refuse to dress like a granny,”
She also noted that she was able to get this youthful look by doing her cheap Skin routines which helped her to save up some money.
She continued: “I stay looking good because I am dedicated to a cheap and cheerful skin care routine anyone can follow.”
“I know I can make anyone look younger and help defy ageing by using pound shop products and simple money saving beauty hacks.”
Getting compliments from people?, she said: “I still get all tingly when people compliment me.
“I’m dead proud to look this young at 64 and this is my time to shine.
“I’m proof that you can be sexy in your 60s.”
How she dealt with acne and also be bullied with how she looked, she said: “When I was just 13, I suffered a severe acne.
“I was bullied terribly at school. Kids would call me ‘pizza face’ and make fun of my painful red acne.
She added: “My mother was a Max Factor rep and always had perfect makeup and hair,” she remembers.
“She was so glamorous, I watched her put on her ’face’ and thought she was a princess.
“I was taught to use gentle soap and water, a basic simple face scrub and what was then known as a skin tonic. It’s what we call a skin toner now.
“Witch hazel toner or rosewater were cost saving options in the 1960s when I was a teen and still available today.”
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I spent £8k to look like Barbie and I look better than I was 19
A woman named Jade Lyne, who spent £8,000 to look like Barbie, has shared that the surgeries she underwent have made her feel and look much younger than her actual age.
Jade revealed that she had plastic surgeries, breast augmentation, and regular spray tans to achieve the Barbie look. However, she mentioned that she hasn’t had any recent surgeries and is now focusing more on her overall appearance and her love for the color pink.
She explained, “I haven’t had any surgeries recently and have been focusing on my looks in every way possible, aside from surgery. I’ve spent hours researching makeup, skincare, hair, and outfits to look my very best.”
Jade continued, “I honestly feel like I look better now than I did when I was 19! People used to call me names like clown, hideous, or say I looked 50 years old. But I also receive plenty of nice comments both online and in person.”
She also credited skincare for helping her look more youthful, adding that she stopped wearing wigs after eight years, which made a big difference. “Now I bleach-dye my hair to save time and money. Finding the right makeup, especially foundation, has been a game-changer for me. I’ve also made my eyebrows thinner and draw them higher to give the appearance of a mini facelift.”
Jade describes herself as a “bimbo Barbie 24/7” and says pink is an essential part of her lifestyle. “Everything has to be pink—nails, toes, piercings. The more pink, blonde, and Barbie I am, the happier I feel.”
When asked about how she handles negative comments, Jade confidently stated, “I don’t respond to negative comments because they don’t bother me. I’m really happy with who I am, how I look, and what I do for work.”
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My boyfriend pays the rent of the house we live and he does not know I am the owner of the house
A woman identified as Jaynee has revealed on TikTok that her boyfriend unknowingly pays rent for the house they both live in, despite her being the actual owner. In the video, Jaynee explained that she and her partner have been living in the house for a year, but he doesn’t realize she has owned the property for five years.
Filming from inside her car, she wrote: “He pays the rent and all the major bills. Little does he know I’m the landlord and owned this place for five years now. So his direct deposits are going straight to me.” She then posed the question, “Do y’all think he’ll be mad?”
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This revelation sparked a lot of reactions on social media. One user commented, “✍🏽 become landlord ✍🏽 suggest we live together in one of my buildings ✍🏽 got it 😂😂😩.” Another speculated, “Imagine he already knows and still keeps putting the money in your account anyway…. 😏.”
Other users had mixed reactions. One said, “All ladies are saying that’s right, but what if the shoe was on the other foot? Just curious about y’all’s answers.” Another added, “Keep that same energy when Karma hits!”
Supporters of Jaynee’s actions chimed in as well: “He’s your BOYFRIEND, not your husband, and he would’ve had to pay rent anyway, so I say good for you! They’re just mad they didn’t think of it first. Do you!”
Others added, “Saving all of his money to buy you/y’all something nice,” and, “A relationship that (literally) has its foundation built on lies and deceit will never last.”