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I was thinking I’m infertile and have been trying to have many children not knowing my husband underwent Vasectomy
A lady has shared her distressing experience on social media, recounting how her husband misled her about their plans for a large family.
She had always dreamed of having four children, but despite her efforts to conceive a second child, it was not happening.
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Initially, she thought she was infertile, only to later discover that her husband had undergone a vasectomy without her knowledge.
she wrote: “Throwaway bc my husband knows my main. I don’t know what to do. My (31F) husband (32M) -fake name Chris, and I have been married for four years, together for six. When we first got together we had several long talks about how we both wanted a big family. I wanted to be very upfront that child free is not an option, and I said I wanted to have at least four kids. I’m an only child and know how lonely it is, I also said I wanted to have them about a year/year and a half apart so they could grow up close.
He always wholeheartedly agreed to this and often made jokes like “whether we have 4 or 6, have as many as we want, it’s your call since you pretty much have to do all the work” and on our wedding day before we left the reception for our honeymoon he whispered “can we get outta here and get started on baby #1?” I loved how excited he seemed. To be clear I didn’t go off my BC until about two months after we were married and I got pregnant soon after with our first daughter Joy.
Joy was a happy pregnancy, long birth, but she was a beautiful, healthy baby. She went through colic which was trying, but other than that she was a happy first addition according to me. I noticed Chris became distant during my first pregnancy, but when I asked him about it he just said he had a lot in his mind being a new father. He said he was still excited, but something changed. For reference, we both work full time, I make about 20K more a year than him, and the five bedroom house that we live in was a gift from my mom who was very excited to be a grandma to many. My job is fully remote, but still offers maternity leave, and I have a nest egg savings for emergencies, and feel it’s important to mention this because I know finances can be a major stress factor when it comes to having kids, but not for me and Chris.
Then Joy came out perfectly, Chris had three months of paternity leave and was home with us for majority of that time. My mom visited a lot, and paid to have cleaners come. There were still a lot of long nights and it was tough for me to breastfeed, but overall nothing unexpected. Chris still seemed distant, but always helped with Joy. We have an agreed open phone policy, so I did check his phone quite often but didn’t find any sign of cheating. He goes through my phone whenever he wants too. I asked if he found me unattractive while pregnant and he assured me no, he loves me and he’s excited for our family.
Fast forward a year after, we’re sleeping through the night and I am back to work, saw my doctor and was cleared to try for bundle of joy #2, and Chris seemed very enthusiastic at this point. He even downloaded an app to track my fertility cycle so we could make the most of my ovulation times.
We had a lot of fun and he was always very passionate, but six months of trying with no pregnancy I started to worry. I’d voice my concerns and Chris would brush them off, so I tried to be patient, but then almost two years passed and Joy is growing up by herself.
I broke down to my mother crying and she agreed to come with me to the doctor to get checked out. I was very emotional and scared, but the doctor assured me everything is fine and that I should be able to conceive without any issues.
I went to Chris with this knowledge and he was very upset I went to a fertility specialist. I explained I thought something might have gone wrong during my last pregnancy, concerned that I was maybe blocked or infertile somehow. He said why not wait and “just let nature take its course” and I said “our little girl is almost three, and growing up by herself.” I reminded him of our plans and he just nodded and said all we can do is try. I asked if he would see a fertility specialist and he got angry, saying there’s nothing wrong with him and we don’t have the money for fertility treatments anyway. This confused me since we do have money, we have my savings and are doing pretty well.
When he went to sleep I decided to go through his phone again and went back through his calendar and call logs. I noticed about eight months after Joy was born there was a blocked day indicating he’d taken off from work, but it was in the middle of the week and I don’t remember any sort of special occasions behind why he’d take this random day off. I went through the call logs and found an office number about a week before and when I googled the number a local business where you could get a vasectomy appeared! I couldn’t believe what I was looking at. I instantly felt cold all over then started to panic.
I woke him up and confronted him. He just stared at me while I went off and admitted babies were harder than he thought and he felt like my first pregnancy took forever.
I couldn’t believe it. I packed my things, Joy and her things and drove to my mom’s house. She is in distress with my sudden appearance and my inability to stop crying. I finally told her yesterday morning what happened and she’s just beside herself. I don’t know what to do, but every time I think about how during sex Chris would talk to me about giving me a baby and he’d had the vasectomy the entire time. I feel so disgusted and stupid. I can’t believe my little girl is going to grow up alone. Chris has been blowing up my phone, but I just keep letting it ring and haven’t read any of his texts.
Edit: to those saying I “coerced” my “poor husband” into agreeing to a big family, nope. I was always open and honest about my dreams, told him it’s okay if he wanted different things, and he not only repetitively agreed and accepted, he also helped me plan, nest, put together the nursery and enthusiastically participated in conversations regarding having multiple children around friends and family, and always said we’d have at least 4. That was our number. Him getting a vasectomy behind my back was a complete shock.
Also, we’ve both always agreed to the open phone policy. I never “betrayed his trust” by going through his phone since I always had his consent to do so and he has mine. We even have the same phone pass code. I never wanted to be in a relationship where we kept secrets from each other. I know other couples feel different, but this is another thing he always 100% claimed he agreed with me on.
I vaguely remember one week where he actually turned me down for sex claiming he had a “head cold” and he didn’t join me in the shower like usual during that time, but I didn’t think anything about it. And no, men never need a wife’s signature to get vasectomy.
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The Shop Owner Went to Ayelala Shrine and Vowed to Swear — Lady Laments After Millions of Naira Worth of Wigs Were Stolen From Her Shop
According to the narrator in the TikTok video, the woman is a hairdresser who runs her own business and has several workers.
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The narrator said the woman’s shop was reportedly robbed, with the thieves making away with wigs and weavons said to be worth millions of naira.
Following the incident, the hairdresser reportedly vowed to recover her missing goods and find out who was behind the theft.
She was also said to have given the person responsible seven days to return the stolen wigs and hair extensions, after which the matter would be taken further according to the traditional practice she had invoked.
The video later showed a group of Ayelala people arriving at the woman’s shop carriyng sacrifices.
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In a post shared on X, Dora revealed that it was her first time getting close to marriage, as her partner had returned from China and the couple had already taken steps towards their wedding.
Dora said the unexpected loss left her deeply shaken and affected her ability to think clearly.
She also recalled how some people told her to be grateful that she did not eventually become a young widow, a comment she found insensitive because she had lost someone she loved.
She wrote:
“Sometimes I wish life will be more kinder to us . The first time I almost got married . My guy came back from china . We did medical test and met families. then he fell sick and we lost him . Omo!!! His death really shook me .i couldn’t think straight . Some people said be thankful you didn’t end up as a young widow , excuse you !! That was someone’s son. I stayed away from relationships for a while”
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They Said You Are Broke, You Cannot Pay Me Back – Lady Continues to Call Out UK-Based Nigerian Man She Dated for 1 Year Without Knowing He Was Married
A lady who recently went viral after calling out a Nigerian UK-based man identified as Uche for hiding his marital status from her has made more claims about their relationship.
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The woman had earlier revealed that she dated Uche for about one year before discovering that he was married.
She further alleged that Uche previously used his ex-wife to obtain papers to remain in the United Kingdom, while claiming that he never genuinely loved her.
According to the lady, she decided to speak out and share her experience after discovering what she described as another side of Uche’s relationships with women.
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In a video shared on TikTok, Julia claimed that many wealthy men in Nigeria are not physically attractive and argued that, in some cases, money may be the major quality they have to offer.
Julia further criticised people who use poverty to insult or shame others, particularly during arguments on social media.
According to her, it has become common for Nigerians to bring up another person’s financial situation even when it has nothing to do with the conversation.
She said:
“The manner we broke shame people in nigeria is a normal thing, it is a random thing, you and person go dey talk the next thing he go talk say you wey poor”
Julia questioned why someone’s financial status should suddenly become an insult during an unrelated conversation.
She also claimed that some wealthy men behave as though their money can make up for poor character, suggesting that financial success should not automatically be seen as a sign of good personality or behaviour.
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A struggling mother opened up about the challenges she faces while trying to provide for her family.
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In a interview with citizen Tv, She revealed that she had to work on a farm during her childhood to ensure her siblings had enough to eat for the day.
Life became difficult for her, prompting her to leave her village in Vihiga County and travel to Nairobi, kenya in search of better opportunities.
Unfortunately, she gave birth to all three of her children on the streets with different men, adding to her hardships.
She said: “When I left, I was coming to Kibera. I had only heard of the place but had never been there. I was coming to look for work and escape the mistreatment back home. It was never as easy here as I anticipated, but I was determined to do my best to make a living rather than go back home,”
“I did not want to be close to the men in my circle, but it was almost inevitable because of circumstances. I do not know all my kids’ fathers, but they do not belong to the same man.
“I now have three girls and two boys, each having a different father. I thought I was being helped by the last two men I met, but they all lied to me; now I have a bigger burden to fend for all my five kids.”
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People hide their boyfriends from me because they always think I want to snatch them because of my body shape
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In an interview with Truly, Mila revealed that she has already undergone four surgeries, including two Brazilian Butt Lifts (BBLs), bum implants, two breast augmentations, and several lip filler procedures.
She also shared the challenges she faces living in China, noting that it’s difficult to find clothes in her size due to her unique body proportions. Additionally, Mila described how people often stare at her whenever she steps out in public, drawing attention because of her striking appearance.
What people say about her, she said: “People will think oh look she has had so much surgeries maybe she is a bad girl.
“I think my look is super cute and uh unique and beautiful it shows my personality.
“People always look at me where-ever i go restaurants, bars everybody just look at me or take out their phones and take photo of me and they just be quiet and look at me with big eyes.
“When i go to bars or clubs, girls they hate me i don’t know they just look at me how i dress and body shapes and then they would worry about their boyfriend look at me there are friends who always meet me but they don’t want to ever make me meet their boyfriends
“They met think i would do something with their boyfriends but i have no interest in for them i’m beautiful and my body is beautiful if someone take a photo of me I will be like okay let me take a pose, I enjoy it.”
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In a post shared on Twitter, the lady reflected on her teenage years, revealing that she was 15 at the time and describing that period as a difficult one for her.
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She said she felt she “carried holy ghost on her head” during those years, before eventually withdrawing from the church.
Now 18 and identifying as an atheist, the young woman said she feels she looks younger than her age compared to how she looked at 15.
She shared photos of herself from both periods to show the difference in her appearance.
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You Impregnated Me at 16, Ran Away and Left Me With All the Responsibility — Woman Calls Out Man After He Asks Her to Change Their Son’s Surname Before Taking Responsibility
According to the woman, Kenneth got her pregnant when she was 16 and asked her to terminate the pregnancy. She said she did not understand what abortion was at the time and did not know how or where to get the drugs.
She said Kenneth later disappeared from Otukpo and did not take responsibility for the child.
Years later, Kenneth reportedly contacted her and asked to meet so they could discuss his responsibilities towards their son.
The woman said their son is now seven years old and will turn eight in December. She explained that the child currently bears her father’s surname because he has been staying with her parents.
According to her, Kenneth told her that the child’s surname must be changed to his own before he would begin taking responsibility for him.
She said:
“When I was 16years old, You got me pregnant, You said I should abort the baby i told you i dont know what is abortion i dont even know how and where I would get the drugs from and i dont know how I would go about it since 2018 till date you refused to take responsibility that was how you disappeared you disappeared from Otukpo that was not even my problem after so many years, this guy came back, after so many years, this boy that you are seeing is already 7 years and by December he would be 8years, this boy (Her son) is using my father’s name as his surname so last year, this guy said we should meet up so that we can talk about the responsibility of the child I said no problem, I dont even know how he got my contact, i dont even know how he reached out to me.
“Last year I was on my own when he called then i asked who is this, he said he is kenneth, and i was like which kenneth Ojobor that was when he started telling me that you dont know me again and i said me i thought you are dead oh, he said No he id not dead and i said no problem, Kenneth called me and told me we should meet and i told him i wont come and meet him despite the fact that both of us are in abuja here and we are in the same state, I cannot come and see you he said no problem, he would come and see me that day it was on sunday, I did not go to church and i said Okay lets meet in the morning because I have something to do later he said no problem, around 9 am he called me and said that he is already in Kubwa I said no problem, Just hang around, anywhere i would come and meet you after 2 hours, I showered i prepared everything then i Left the house, I left with my present boyfriend then i went to Kenneth when i went to meet him, Imagine what this stupid boy told me that which name is the boy (Their child) using I said i gave him my tribal name he the asked which surname is he using i tell am say na agagba which is my daddy’s name na he said no his son cannot bear agagba that the boy cannot be answering my fathers name i said Okay no problem i know he is your son i would not even deny you he said no that I must change his name to his own name which is kenneth i told him no problem… changing of the name is not my problem he then told me that when i change the name, he would start taking responsibility i told him no problem that changing the name is not an issue that okay if i want to change the name since this boy is not staying with me he used to come for holiday and I said since he is not staying with me and he is staying with my parents, Now go and visit my parent because my parent dont even know this guy my mom, dad sisters brothers they dont even know you and thank God my father has never disturbed me that where is the boy father who is the person that Impregnated you and i said okay for you to give them that respect, Go to our village tell them that you are sorry that you are the one that got their daughter pregnant This guy open mouth tell me say he no go fit go meet my parents saying that shey na him and my parents get something?? say shey na my mama he give belle say he does not have any business with my parents say anything wey we wan dey talk about the boy make we dey talk am say no need to go see my parents say they are not involved in this”
The woman said she had no problem with changing the child’s surname because she recognised Kenneth as the father. However, she wanted him to meet her parents and acknowledge them before taking responsibility for the child.
She explained that her parents had cared for the boy and that Kenneth had never met them. She therefore felt that visiting them and apologising for what happened would be a sign of respect.
The woman also shared another incident involving Kenneth.
She said he once called her and told her that he had visited a church where a prophet told him that he had offended someone and needed to apologise.
She continued:
“I said how how am i Your problem, he then said that his prophet told him that he offended someone ad then he needs to apologize to the person and i told him, I no be god, take care of your son carry the responsibility on your shoulder”
The woman has now shared her experience publicly, explaining how the situation has affected her and her son over the years.
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A man named Ensito has gone viral after revealing that he spent a staggering $20,000 collecting Labubu dolls — and even quit his job to pursue it full-time.
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In an interview with Truly, Ensito shared that his passion for the popular collectible figures became so intense that he decided to leave his job and fully dedicate himself to collecting.
Over the span of a year and six months, he invested $20,000 into building his Labubu collection, which he proudly displays
“First time i saw them, I Didn’t really think they were that cute so what made me flip to become passionate about labubus” He said in a part
“So i have always been a collector at heart before labubus, I was still collecting designer shoes and designer bags I have over hundred pairs of shoes and over hundred designer bags
He added: “One of my favorite thing with Labubu is matching them with my bags and dressing them up and buy little outfits for them and i have created their own closet, I have travellled everywhere New york, san franciso, chicago, LA San Diego and also london, I have already have 3 trips planned where i need to get some more exclusive labubus.
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I Used to Cry Because I Didn’t Have a Child – Mo Bimpe Recalls How She Was Left Out of Baby Showers
Yoruba actress Mo Bimpe has opened up about a painful period in her life, revealing that she was once left out of baby showers, naming ceremonies and children’s birthday celebrations because she did not have a child at the time.
The actress shared her experience in a video posted on her Instagram page, where she became emotional while reflecting on how she felt during that period.
According to Mo Bimpe, she would sometimes cry because she felt she had nothing to celebrate or a child to talk about, despite genuinely loving children and wanting to share in the happiness of people around her.
She explained that she later discovered that some people had deliberately excluded her from events involving children because she was not a mother.
“There was a time when I wasn’t invited to baby showers, naming ceremonies, children’s birthdays, or anything related to kids. Sometimes, these were people I knew personally.
“People I laughed with, worked with, and genuinely cared about. I remember wondering what I had done wrong. Later, I found out that some people intentionally left me out because I didn’t have children. At the time, it hurt deeply.
“Not because I wanted pity, but because I loved children. I wanted to celebrate with people. I wanted to share in their joy. What many people don’t realise is that struggling to conceive is already hard enough. The waiting is hard. The questions are hard. The insults are hard. The silent prayers are hard.
“Please don’t make it harder by excluding people. A woman without a child is not less deserving of love, friendship, inclusion, or celebration. Invite her. Love her. Celebrate with her. You never truly know what someone is carrying behind their smile.”
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