Marriage has made me become more deliberate about my actions. For instance, I’m like, ‘you are a married woman, you can’t just stay out late, you can’t always go out and forget yourself’. If for instance I go out with my friends and we end up seeing a couple of movies late into the night because we don’t want to get home and be bored, but now that I am a married woman, I can’t (do so) because I wouldn’t want to be perambulating Lagos like a homeless person. So, I think there is a sense of responsibility now, but not from a place of being forced, it is just me talking to myself.
When people get married, they get so comfortable. It feels like a box that has been ticked, but they are not really interested in servicing it as such. You’ve ticked the box and you’ve moved on.
So, what else? My greatest fear will be not really nurturing my home, keeping and building my home to be that place I always want to come back to, and make it a safe place for my husband. Sometimes, you see some couples fight like enemies and you begin to question why, because they used to be in love. So, what went wrong? Like my husband would always say, ‘this one that this love is just doing us, hope tomorrow we would not say ‘to your tent, Oh Israel’ and I’ll say, ‘we don’t need to work too hard to make this thing, we are already here